Healing Mind-Body-Soul
Healing is an important process in Stop the Mind Screw and today we are going to discuss how to heal using this simple method.
Watch the video here: (blog post below)
1. THE MIND NEEDS TO REASON AND UNDERSTAND.
- Journal - remember morning pages? Write out your feelings and get them on paper.
- Get support in a safe place - seek a friend, mentor, or a coach whom you can vent to in a supportive fashion
- Know if you need solutions or just to be heard from that support and journalling.
2. THE BODY NEEDS TO EXPERIENCE IT. This is key to understanding the body needs to experience the emotion - especially before you respond.
The healthy ways to experience this are as follows:
- Punch a pillow, scream, cry.
- Physiological state change - cold plunge, breath work, exercise. I do all 3 but exercise is my favorite go-to!
- Then rest and allow, settle in, relax, then integrate these feelings into the body.
3. SOUL - REMEMBER WHO YOU TRULY ARE - connect with the conscious observer
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Your Words Have Power
Today's video is all about the power of your words. Simple words like can't, should, and always. Things you say I am to. Scroll down to read more or watch the video below.
Can't: Sets you up for failure, implies a low self-image, increases stress level, blocks creativity and ability to problem solve.
Like the retired marine told my client, "Can't never did anything, yet it is still in the dictionary."
Won't: Asserts confidence, signifies preference and choice.
Should: implies there is right or wrong, it sends a message that you or another is not in control, signifies lack of acceptance rather than encouragement.
Could: reinforces freedome and ability to take full ownership.
Never/Always: You are trying to prove a point, your goal is winning - not understanding, encourage awfulizing and catastrophizing thoughts, depletes energy, and causes anxiety.
Sometimes: You do not box yourself in, creates support for openness and acceptance.
(Not in the video)
Have to: relinquish...
Why I Hate Mother's Day
Mother's Day, every year it is the same. I do not like it. And it is not because of my own mother, or even my own children. No, it is because of the woman who stepped in to pretend to be "the mom" by bullying me!
I don't mean to sound rude, and I really do not use the term 'hate' loosely, but you will soon understand why I say this.
- I have no graduation pictures with my boys.
- I was not "allowed" <by her> to be involved in extra special sporting ceremonies with my boys.
- I did not get to send them off to college.
- I rarely spent actual holidays with them - including Mother's Day (well he'd give me a few hours cuz he had to)
And when it is mother's day I am treated like the stepmom.
Why? Because the woman who married the father of my children is extremely insecure.
She doesn't need to be insecure. I mean she is an absolutely stunning Hispanic woman.
BUT she does not know that. She has no clue of her real power. So we ALL are forced to live within her insecure guidelines.
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This Will Keep You Safe
Boundaries are what keep you safe. You don't even have to worry if someone else has compassion or if someone else is cruel. When you have established boundaries and values you know where trust comes from and that is not outside of yourself.
No vaccine will be doing this. Sorry, but it has to come from within and boundaries are how you do it!
This video is all about Boundaries and what keeps your kingdom/queendom safe.
I saw this post:
Okay, so what if there was one of those? There would be no contrast. For example, if I had given my ex one of those vaccines, I would still be with him.
Our values do not match up and no vaccine is going to fix that. And guess what?! That is OK!
Boundaries fix that! Boundaries are what keeps you safe, they keep cruelty and lack of compassion out of your life and the Stop the Mind Screw!
Watch the video about boundaries, pitfalls you hit for not having boundaries, and solutions that you encounter when you do have boundaries.
Hope to...
I Was Triggered
Yesterday I was triggered. And today I am here to tell you there is a new inclusion to the revision step in Stop the Mind Screw and that is HEALING.
I am triggered by bullies. I have been bullied all of my life, even as a very young child. I recognize a bully a mile away and am easily triggered by bullying instances.
I will be doing a video on this process soon (May 20, 2021) but wanted to get this blog post out now! This is healing to me!
As you may or may not know I quit talking about Reality Transurfing because of the "leader" of the group and how she "bullied" (IMO) others out of talking about the book. You can read that post here.
This post was on the International Transurfing Group, and this is what triggered me:
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In my ego's opinion, this was bullying. In my ego's opinion, Renee is a bully.
I could be wrong. She did state that was not her intention - to the group to save face! And it sure appears that she did bully Aaron Doughty out of RT...
Don't Like It? Revise it!
Revision is one of the most powerful things you can do to transform your life.
And in today's video, I teach you about the pitfalls you hit when you do not use revision.
And simple solutions that happen when you do.
Watch the video now!
What is the Pruning Shears of Revision? This is a great question. I am often asked this question because I refer to it over and over again as a solution to almost every problem. I discuss it in-depth in the video and Here is a link to a free pdf document and lecture by Neville Goddard himself.
When is the best time to revise your day? At night before bed go over your day and see where you were reactive or things did not go as you would have preferred. Then revise those situations as you fall asleep. Why? Because your brain waves are optimal for revision. First thing in the morning is great too. Ideally, you want to revise as you fall asleep so your subconscious mind is clear.
- You continue being reactive
- There is no power there
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Quit Giving This a Bad Rap
Quit giving responsibility a bad wrap. Take your power back and shift your perspective.
Responsibility as stated in A Course In Miracles Chapter 21 Responsibility for Sight
Say only this, but mean it with no reservations, for here the power of salvation lies: I am responsible for what I see. I choose the feelings I experience, and I decide upon the goal I would achieve. And everything that seems to happen to me I ask for and receive as I have asked. Deceive yourself no longer that you are helpless in the face of what is done to you.
What is a diet without a meal plan? An important element of a mental diet meal plan is responsibility.
But responsibility gets a bad rap and today I want to shift your perspective on this topic.
Matthew McConaughey lost his father at a young age, I think around the age of 20. After the stages of grief, he found that if his father had lived, he wouldn't have been the actor he was today because he relied on his father so much. That is...
Stop the Mind Screw
In today's video, I talk about an experience I had and where I came up with Stop The Mind Screw.
It all started back in 2008. I got a bullying email on my blackberry, yes, that is how long ago this was, from the step-mom. (watch until the end to see my blueberry blooper!)
This was nothing new. My ex and his wife bullied me all the time and they could get away with this because the courts did not monitor our emails back in the day.
They NEVER once co-parented with me and this was typical.
But on this day in February 2008, I had a nervous breakdown. I did not even know where I was, that was how bad this was.
Somehow one of my friends was able to help me and that night I had a realization. One that changed my life forever.
I had recently read A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle, my #1 book on my reading list - for a reason! And I realized I had been telling myself (and anyone who would listen) a very disempowering story about my life as a mom - with a...
What Do You Really Want?
So many do not know exactly what they want.
In today's video, I discuss the pitfalls of not knowing exactly what they want. One of those is drifting as Napoleon Hill talks about in his book Outwitting the Devil.
I also give 5 solutions to these pitfalls. Be sure to watch today's video and even get the free template that gives you the recipe for writing down your exact goal.
You can snag that template here!
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Pitfall #1 Drifting
Pitfall #2 Reactive
Pitfall #3 Nothing ever changes
Pitfall #4 Or could get a whole lot worse
Pitfall #5 Loss of confidence
Solution #1 You know exactly where you are going
Solution #2 Pivots become easy
Solution #3 Reevaluate your goals and understand
Solution #4 Definiteness of purpose
Solution #5 You are in flow
Book: Outwitting the Devil Napoleon Hill https://amzn.to/3smkNPS
Video House was Stolen From Me https://youtu.be/5JhiPunRegQ
Blog Post about House: https://www.kathieowen.com/blog/stolen-house
Is Positivity Toxic?
In today's video I discuss this very thing.
The word toxic positivity is an oxymoron. Or as we like to call it at Stop the Mind Screw a "toxi-moron!"
As a Positive Mindset Coach, it appears that I may teach rainbows and butterflies, but I beg to differ.
I have news for those who think that. I get mad! I get really angry!
BUT I do not get reactive nor is that what I teach.
I go within, feel the emotion, talk to my Inner Being and find a way to be proactive instead of reactive.
Proactivity can look like drawing a boundary with someone who has treated you ugly.
Or by being kind to yourself and taking a break from the situation.
So, positivity is not toxic. It can be forced, but that is stupidity and not positive at all!!
It is my hope that I change the mind of kids nowadays who call positivity toxic. Heck, I think there is a therapist who has a book titled Toxic Positivity.
Is she correct? Yes and no! The positivity she is talking about is FORCED. That is not...
