I hate the term #toxicpositivity. And I don’t use the word 'hate' unless it is absolutely necessary.
Why? Because positivity saved my life. There is nothing toxic about it. That my friends is an illusion!!!
As a survivor of Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder I could have easily blamed positivity for all my problems. And told people, “You don’t know what I went through!!” or “Please, it was really bad.”
No, I learned from many years of therapy, awareness, and contemplation that does absolutely no good.
All that does is keep you in victim mode. And after being in victim mode for so long you come out and victimize everyone and everything - including positivity. #dumb
Instead, enter victor mode. Become aware that these victim/victimizer thoughts are all illusions.
Serve the principles of truth, integrity, courage and above all LOVE!!
Those principles my friend ARE POSITIVITY.
Those principles saved my life!! And could save yours....
I first heard this term about a year ago. It just feels wrong to me. But I truly wanted to understand this concept so I did some research. I now understand why and when someone would view thinking positively as toxic. But positivity itself is NOT toxic. What is toxic? FORCED positivity.
Who came up with this term anyhow? First of all, positivity is not even a real word. And second of all, if it were the two terms do not go together. It is a true oxymoron.
So what is toxic positivity? Well, I find it to be when something really tragic happens and someone tells you, "Everything happens for a reason." or "Just think positive it will be over soon." That my friends are forcing positive vibes on someone who needs to grieve. That is FORCED positivity.
Study the diagram of consciousness by David Hawkins. It is Power VS Force. Do you think someone who is coming from POWER is going to FORCE positivity on someone? NO! So, therefore, what I teach is not toxic, nor is positivity...