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Healing Mind-Body-Soul

Healing is an important process in Stop the Mind Screw and today we are going to discuss how to heal using this simple method.

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  • Journal - remember morning pages? Write out your feelings and get them on paper.
  • Get support in a safe place - seek a friend, mentor, or a coach whom you can vent to in a supportive fashion
  • Know if you need solutions or just to be heard from that support and journalling.

2. THE BODY NEEDS TO EXPERIENCE IT.  This is key to understanding the body needs to experience the emotion - especially before you respond.

The healthy ways to experience this are as follows:

  • Punch a pillow, scream, cry.
  • Physiological state change - cold plunge, breath work, exercise. I do all 3 but exercise is my favorite go-to!
  • Then rest and allow, settle in, relax, then integrate these feelings into the body.

3. SOUL - REMEMBER WHO YOU TRULY ARE - connect with the conscious observer

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Your Words Have Power

Today's video is all about the power of your words. Simple words like can't, should, and always. Things you say I am to. Scroll down to read more or watch the video below.


Can't: Sets you up for failure, implies a low self-image, increases stress level, blocks creativity and ability to problem solve.

Like the retired marine told my client, "Can't never did anything, yet it is still in the dictionary."

Won't: Asserts confidence, signifies preference and choice.

Should: implies there is right or wrong, it sends a message that you or another is not in control, signifies lack of acceptance rather than encouragement.

Could: reinforces freedome and ability to take full ownership.

Never/Always: You are trying to prove a point, your goal is winning - not understanding, encourage awfulizing and catastrophizing thoughts, depletes energy, and causes anxiety.

Sometimes: You do not box yourself in, creates support for openness and acceptance.

(Not in the video)

Have to: relinquish...

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Don't Like It? Revise it!

Revision is one of the most powerful things you can do to transform your life.

And in today's video, I teach you about the pitfalls you hit when you do not use revision.

And simple solutions that happen when you do.

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 What is the Pruning Shears of Revision? This is a great question. I am often asked this question because I refer to it over and over again as a solution to almost every problem. I discuss it in-depth in the video and Here is a link to a free pdf document and lecture by Neville Goddard himself. 

When is the best time to revise your day? At night before bed go over your day and see where you were reactive or things did not go as you would have preferred. Then revise those situations as you fall asleep. Why? Because your brain waves are optimal for revision. First thing in the morning is great too. Ideally, you want to revise as you fall asleep so your subconscious mind is clear.

  1. You continue being reactive
  2. There is no power there
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Quit Giving This a Bad Rap

Quit giving responsibility a bad wrap. Take your power back and shift your perspective.

Responsibility as stated in A Course In Miracles Chapter 21 Responsibility for Sight

Say only this, but mean it with no reservations, for here the power of salvation lies: I am responsible for what I see. I choose the feelings I experience, and I decide upon the goal I would achieve. And everything that seems to happen to me I ask for and receive as I have asked. Deceive yourself no longer that you are helpless in the face of what is done to you.


What is a diet without a meal plan? An important element of a mental diet meal plan is responsibility.

But responsibility gets a bad rap and today I want to shift your perspective on this topic.

Matthew McConaughey lost his father at a young age, I think around the age of 20. After the stages of grief, he found that if his father had lived, he wouldn't have been the actor he was today because he relied on his father so much. That is...

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Stop the Mind Screw

In today's video, I talk about an experience I had and where I came up with Stop The Mind Screw.

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It all started back in 2008. I got a bullying email on my blackberry, yes, that is how long ago this was, from the step-mom. (watch until the end to see my blueberry blooper!)

This was nothing new. My ex and his wife bullied me all the time and they could get away with this because the courts did not monitor our emails back in the day.

They NEVER once co-parented with me and this was typical.

But on this day in February 2008, I had a nervous breakdown. I did not even know where I was, that was how bad this was.

Somehow one of my friends was able to help me and that night I had a realization. One that changed my life forever.

I had recently read A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle, my #1 book on my reading list - for a reason! And I realized I had been telling myself (and anyone who would listen) a very disempowering story about my life as a mom - with a...

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What Do You Really Want?


So many do not know exactly what they want.

In today's video, I discuss the pitfalls of not knowing exactly what they want. One of those is drifting as Napoleon Hill talks about in his book Outwitting the Devil.

I also give 5 solutions to these pitfalls. Be sure to watch today's video and even get the free template that gives you the recipe for writing down your exact goal.

You can snag that template here!


Pitfall #1 Drifting

Pitfall #2 Reactive

Pitfall #3 Nothing ever changes

Pitfall #4 Or could get a whole lot worse

Pitfall #5 Loss of confidence

Solution #1 You know exactly where you are going

Solution #2 Pivots become easy

Solution #3 Reevaluate your goals and understand

Solution #4 Definiteness of purpose

Solution #5 You are in flow

Book: Outwitting the Devil Napoleon Hill

Video House was Stolen From Me

Blog Post about House:


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Is Positivity Toxic?

In today's video I discuss this very thing.

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The word toxic positivity is an oxymoron. Or as we like to call it at Stop the Mind Screw a "toxi-moron!"

As a Positive Mindset Coach, it appears that I may teach rainbows and butterflies, but I beg to differ.

I have news for those who think that. I get mad! I get really angry!

BUT I do not get reactive nor is that what I teach.

I go within, feel the emotion, talk to my Inner Being and find a way to be proactive instead of reactive.

Proactivity can look like drawing a boundary with someone who has treated you ugly.

Or by being kind to yourself and taking a break from the situation.

So, positivity is not toxic. It can be forced, but that is stupidity and not positive at all!!

It is my hope that I change the mind of kids nowadays who call positivity toxic. Heck, I think there is a therapist who has a book titled Toxic Positivity.

Is she correct? Yes and no! The positivity she is talking about is FORCED. That is not...

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Money and Mind Control

Just in case you missed it, here is a recap of the Hump Day Bump Day with Natalie Kime and finances and mind control.

We started with the end in mind. No, seriously we did. Natalie's Facebook Cover states, "Start with the end in mind"

That is exactly how I start my programs. Just like Neville Goddard teaches.

Natalie does the same thing. She said that when she coaches her clients on finances she tells them to start with the end in mind. Where do you want to be? What is your end goal?

Step #1 in Stop the Mind Screw program is just that. What do you want? What is your main goal? Then picture that in full detail, using all 5 senses.

Step #2 is a Mental Diet. What are you thinking? Is it high-quality thoughts or low-quality thoughts? 

Natalie said when she first meets her clients they often shame themselves by not doing what they needed to do beforehand.

She tells them, "Get it all out on the table. And then leave it there. We then start from where you are." A mental diet does the...

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The Person You Talk to The Most

We talk to ourselves more than anyone else. But do you know the quality of those thoughts? Do you monitor this?

This is where our power lies.

In today's video, I discuss this very thing.


Chapters: 00:00 Intro 01:04 First thought 01:44 Reactivity/Proactivity 03:20 Insomnia Pitfalls: 05:27 1.Shape our beleifs 06:31 2. Outlook is affected 08:13 3. Personalize it Solutions: 10:13 1. Decisions are easier 10:35 2. Re-write those limiting beliefs 12:23 3. Who you surround yourself with even in self-talk 14:46 4. Exercise 15:50 5. Triggers 17:34 6. Have a sense of humor Humor 13:34

Tim Ferris Podcast with Matthew

Green Lights

Toxic positivity

Joseph Rodrigues

Trigger video

House was stolen from me:

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Get in the Zone Like This!

Today's video is all about getting in the zone or flow as Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi calls it in his book titled Flow.

Main takeaways:

A person in flow has a high interest in life, they are persistent and they have low self-centeredness.

I discuss my personal experience with Flow, stay tuned to the very end where I explain something that happened on this very video! ‍

There are 4 undesired outcomes or pitfalls from not being in flow:

  1. Distractions both internal and external
  2. Resistance
  3. Wanting of instant gratification
  4. Monkey mind


  1. Suggestions on how to block distractions
  2. A mental diet which becomes a lifestyle (Here's my video on mental diets)
  3. Tame the monkey mind with journaling and meditation
  4. Non-resistance

I also discuss toxic positivity and when this type of approach is not possible due to the stages of grief.

Hope to see you there! 


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