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Why I Hate Mother's Day

Mother's Day, every year it is the same. I do not like it. And it is not because of my own mother, or even my own children. No, it is because of the woman who stepped in to pretend to be "the mom" by bullying me!

I don't mean to sound rude, and I really do not use the term 'hate' loosely, but you will soon understand why I say this.

  • I have no graduation pictures with my boys.
  • I was not "allowed" <by her> to be involved in extra special sporting ceremonies with my boys.
  • I did not get to send them off to college.
  • I rarely spent actual holidays with them - including Mother's Day (well he'd give me a few hours cuz he had to) 

And when it is mother's day I am treated like the stepmom.

Why? Because the woman who married the father of my children is extremely insecure.

She doesn't need to be insecure. I mean she is an absolutely stunning Hispanic woman.

BUT she does not know that. She has no clue of her real power. So we ALL are forced to live within her insecure guidelines.


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I Was Triggered

Yesterday I was triggered. And today I am here to tell you there is a new inclusion to the revision step in Stop the Mind Screw and that is HEALING.

I am triggered by bullies. I have been bullied all of my life, even as a very young child. I recognize a bully a mile away and am easily triggered by bullying instances.

I will be doing a video on this process soon (May 20, 2021) but wanted to get this blog post out now! This is healing to me!

As you may or may not know I quit talking about Reality Transurfing because of the "leader" of the group and how she "bullied" (IMO) others out of talking about the book. You can read that post here.

This post was on the International Transurfing Group, and this is what triggered me:



In my ego's opinion, this was bullying. In my ego's opinion, Renee is a bully.  

I could be wrong. She did state that was not her intention - to the group to save face! And it sure appears that she did bully Aaron Doughty out of RT...

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The Person You Talk to The Most

We talk to ourselves more than anyone else. But do you know the quality of those thoughts? Do you monitor this?

This is where our power lies.

In today's video, I discuss this very thing.


Chapters: 00:00 Intro 01:04 First thought 01:44 Reactivity/Proactivity 03:20 Insomnia Pitfalls: 05:27 1.Shape our beleifs 06:31 2. Outlook is affected 08:13 3. Personalize it Solutions: 10:13 1. Decisions are easier 10:35 2. Re-write those limiting beliefs 12:23 3. Who you surround yourself with even in self-talk 14:46 4. Exercise 15:50 5. Triggers 17:34 6. Have a sense of humor Humor 13:34

Tim Ferris Podcast with Matthew

Green Lights

Toxic positivity

Joseph Rodrigues

Trigger video

House was stolen from me:

Stop the mind screw! Get your simple thought habit...

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The Time I Survived the Texas Freeze

In today's video, I discuss the Texas freeze of 2021. I survived it!!

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I went without power or cell service for 2 full days. My house got down to 42 degrees Farenheight. And it was not that bad! I think that has so much to do with my attitude and the skills I learned along the way as a survivor of Complex PTSD.

I discuss the 4 things I learned:

  1.  Most go through the stages of grief when encountering a traumatic situation. When this happens we cannot look at anything as positive until we get to acceptance. This is why people look at positivity as toxic (I get it but I don't). The stages of grief are Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, and Acceptance.
  2. When one goes through a traumatic event they usually experience Post Traumatic Stress, something I know about!
  3. We are just guests on this planet. We are not entitled to one single thing. Let go of that entitlement and watch your life transform in magic fashion.
  4. Your thought habits are everything!! That...
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No Equipment Workout

fitness ptsd Feb 12, 2021

The simplest way to work out at home is to use your own body, commonly known as isometric exercises.

There are a variety of effective bodyweight exercises that can help you build strength, endurance and burn calories.

And by circuit training (going from one exercise to the next, without little or no rest), you keep your heart rate up, burn more calories and get the most out of your exercise time.

How to:

  • Choose your workout — Cardio, strength training, or a mixture of both
  • Choose 10 different exercises — For cardio, focus on exercises with different levels of intensity. For example, you might alternate a high-intensity exercise (such as jumping jacks or burpees) with an easier move (such as marching in place). For strength training, choose pushes, pulls, front-of-leg, back-of-leg, and core movements, such as squats, lunges, pushups, and dips. 
  • Warm Up all the muscles by doing some dynamic moves
  • Choose the length of each exercise — Beginners might start with...
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What is a Trigger in PTS

ptsd thought habits Feb 11, 2021

Have you ever seen police lights in your rearview mirror and get a sudden wave of fear? Your heart rate starts pulsing and you begin to think of every little thing you just did to see if it is you who is getting pulled over?

That my friend is a trigger. And when you have PTSD it can take something as simple as spending time with a 3-year-old child when all of a sudden you have flashbacks to a time and place where you are in trauma.

Triggers are something every person has whether they have PTSD or not. As a survivor of Complex PTSD, I can tell you those triggers come out of nowhere even when you are healthy and far removed from the narc.

Today I am going to help you by identifying ways to deal with those triggers to minimize the effect.

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Triggers can be both internal and external.

Examples of internal triggers are:

  • Anger
  • Anxiety
  • Feeling abandoned
  • Feeling lonely
  • Feeling out of control
  • Frustration
  • Memories
  • Muscle tension
  • Racing heart rate


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Exercise Plan and Immune System

This week’s fitness tip:

  •  Exercise and Your Immune System
  • Tips on how to make a plan that motivates you.

You may be missing the camaraderie of the gym, the relaxation of swimming laps, or the social connection from walking or hiking with a group of friends. If you were used to attending a fitness class with a motivating instructor or trainer named Kathie Owen , you might be disappointed in the intensity of workouts on your own.

Exercise can help ease depression, stress, and anxiety, and aid in the management of chronic conditions, such as high blood pressure and diabetes. By finding new ways to get moving and stay motivated, you can take charge of your mood and well-being and regain a sense of control.

While being fit won’t prevent you from catching illnesses, it does have many other protective effects. Physical activity releases endorphins, chemicals in your brain that revitalize your mind and body, and it can help to improve all aspects of your health. In...

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Benefits of High Intensity Interval Training

Today we are going to talk about fitness training. Remember this is very beneficial for those with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. Fitness can help you gain confidence and strength and lessen the effects of triggers. So let's talk about HIITs.
HIIT stands for High-Intensity Interval Training. You can do HIITs anytime, any place.
For example, while walking in your neighborhood warm-up for a few minutes then go into a brisk walk for a few houses or blocks, then slow down and rest walk. Continue this type of pace throughout your walk. If you need to jog for a bit to make your interval intense enough I recommend doing that.
Some benefits of HIIT programs are:
1. You build stamina and improve your metabolism. Because you speed up and slow down throughout your workout you are training your body to build stamina. Over the matter of a few weeks of HIIT you will find improved stamina!
2. Improves heart function. Because you take your heart rate up and...
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6 Causes of Brain Fog and What You Can Do About It!

fitnes ptsd silver fitness Dec 07, 2020
Brain fog is a prevalent factor in today's world. Here are 6 known causes for it and how you can treat it. Once you identify the cause you can begin to come up with a solution. Let me give you a hint, exercise, and sleep help tremendously. I can help you with this.
1. Hormonal changes
Hormonal changes can and do trigger brain fog. I have had many of my clients suffer from brain fog. Levels of the hormones progesterone and estrogen increase during pregnancy. This change can affect memory and cause short-term cognitive impairment.
Similarly, a drop in estrogen level during menopause can cause forgetfulness, poor concentration, and cloudy thinking. Click Here to read blog posts about exercise and hormones.
2. Lack of quality sleep
Poor sleep quality can interfere with how well your brain functions. Aim for 8 to 9 hours of sleep per night. Sleeping too little can lead to poor concentration and cloudy thought. Need some tips for quality sleep? Click...
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