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This Will Keep You Safe

Boundaries are what keep you safe. You don't even have to worry if someone else has compassion or if someone else is cruel. When you have established boundaries and values you know where trust comes from and that is not outside of yourself.

No vaccine will be doing this. Sorry, but it has to come from within and boundaries are how you do it!

This video is all about Boundaries and what keeps your kingdom/queendom safe. 

I saw this post: 

Okay, so what if there was one of those? There would be no contrast. For example, if I had given my ex one of those vaccines, I would still be with him. 

Our values do not match up and no vaccine is going to fix that. And guess what?! That is OK!

Boundaries fix that! Boundaries are what keeps you safe, they keep cruelty and lack of compassion out of your life and the Stop the Mind Screw!

Watch the video about boundaries, pitfalls you hit for not having boundaries, and solutions that you encounter when you do have boundaries.

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The Person You Talk to The Most

We talk to ourselves more than anyone else. But do you know the quality of those thoughts? Do you monitor this?

This is where our power lies.

In today's video, I discuss this very thing.


Chapters: 00:00 Intro 01:04 First thought 01:44 Reactivity/Proactivity 03:20 Insomnia Pitfalls: 05:27 1.Shape our beleifs 06:31 2. Outlook is affected 08:13 3. Personalize it Solutions: 10:13 1. Decisions are easier 10:35 2. Re-write those limiting beliefs 12:23 3. Who you surround yourself with even in self-talk 14:46 4. Exercise 15:50 5. Triggers 17:34 6. Have a sense of humor Humor 13:34

Tim Ferris Podcast with Matthew

Green Lights

Toxic positivity

Joseph Rodrigues

Trigger video

House was stolen from me:

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What is Love? ❤

Today's video is about love. Think about who you love and if you love them conditionally or unconditionally.

Here is a link to the video now.

It's interesting to consider the conditions we put on those we love. Or those we think we love.

Romantic love as well. 

We discuss the virtues in this video. Subscribe to your 13-week email with a different virtue every week. Click Here!

From the book Laws of Success by Napoleon Hill unconditional love is the following: enthusiasm, controlled attention, going the extra mile, a pleasing personality, applied faith, maintaining sound physical health, universal law, self-discipline, budgeting time and money, personal initiative, learning from defeat.

And conditional love is the following: poverty, imaginary illness, lazy, greed, envy, vanity, drifting without aim or purpose, revenge, jealousy, dishonesty, arrogance, sadism, cynicism.  (all narcissistic tendencies)

Solutions are:

  • Awareness
  • Boundaries
  • Unconditionally love yourself first
  • ...
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Chaos Proceeds the Breakthrough

Have you ever had a crazy time, day, month, or even year? 

Well, in today's video I discuss this. Click Here to watch it now.

While on a coaching call with Matthew David Hurtado, author of the great book Ask Until it is Given, he said, "Chaos Proceeds the Breakthrough"

I have come to learn this is correct.

Learn the top mistakes: 

  • Panic makes it worse
  • Complaining only brings you more
  • Giving up during the chaos


  • Mind control
  • Mental diet
  • Subconscious reprogramming
  • Trust the process
  • Have faith

Remember when going through the stages of grief there is no way you will be able to comprehend the solutions. 

The 5 stages of grief are:

  1. Denial
  2. Anger
  3. Bargaining
  4. Depression
  5.  Acceptance

Only in acceptance can one comprehend the solutions.

How does one get to acceptance? Through self-care, kindness to self, and time. Do not suppress these emotions, feel them, then move on.

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Benefits of High Intensity Interval Training

Today we are going to talk about fitness training. Remember this is very beneficial for those with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. Fitness can help you gain confidence and strength and lessen the effects of triggers. So let's talk about HIITs.
HIIT stands for High-Intensity Interval Training. You can do HIITs anytime, any place.
For example, while walking in your neighborhood warm-up for a few minutes then go into a brisk walk for a few houses or blocks, then slow down and rest walk. Continue this type of pace throughout your walk. If you need to jog for a bit to make your interval intense enough I recommend doing that.
Some benefits of HIIT programs are:
1. You build stamina and improve your metabolism. Because you speed up and slow down throughout your workout you are training your body to build stamina. Over the matter of a few weeks of HIIT you will find improved stamina!
2. Improves heart function. Because you take your heart rate up and...
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The Victim-Victimizer Cycle

What if you had a secret tool that would help you with every argument you encounter. Well, in today's video, I teach this tool and it is very powerful and helpful.

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Awareness is key! Study the picture below:

This takes place in any argument we may have. That circle eight at the bottom can become an endless battle and we must ask ourselves how do we get to Victor? And how do we get out of this vicious cycle? I answer that question in the video.

Arguments are usually triggered by one's abandonment issues. When these issues are triggered it causes one to go into victimizer and gaslighting takes place.

What is gaslighting? It is when someone plays victimizer and tries to trigger you into an argument. Signs of gaslighting are:

  1. Pretending not to understand
  2. Labeling your thoughts as crazy
  3. Questioning your memory
  4. Pretending to forget
  5. Denying promises
  6. Trivializing your feelings

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Unconditional Love and Conditional Love

Surround yourself with those who bring out the best in you, not the stress in you. -Unknown

Have you had to let go of people who stress you out?

It hurts at first, but realize this fact. It isn’t easy to let go of those you love, but sometimes it is for the best.

Unconditional love is the answer to this. When someone is not good for you it is based on conditional love. 

Unconditional love knows no "conditions" so, therefore, it is freeing!!

This is why I love my dogs so much. They teach me, unconditional love. I know the feeling. And when it turns to conditional love, it is very different.

When you hurt due to missing them (the narcissist) remember the abuse, the rudeness, the hateful behavior, and the disrespect that they so often did. It makes the blow easier. 

And remember the stress is now gone that you let them go. Wishing you the best! 


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