We've all been there. We set a goal with the greatest intentions and we are filled with optimism. Very quickly though, fear, doubt, and indecision creep in. This is resistance in disguise!
There is nothing easy about resistance. I call it speed bumps or hiccups on the way to our destination. It is not a matter of "if" you will hit resistance but "when."
Resistance is that thing that keeps you from doing what you say you're going to do!
Stop mind screwing yourself out of success when you hit these speed bumps and be ready with these 3 mindset shifts!
1. Expect Resistance to Happen.
Resistance can take many forms: friend drama, the weather, family obligations, illness, government. The list goes on and on.
In his book "War of Art" Steven Pressfield says
"Resistance is the equal and opposite reaction of natrue to the new thing that you and I are...
Did you know that when you smile or even think of smiling, you send signals to your brain that everything is okay?
Psychologists have proven this! Researchers at the University of Kansas published findings that smiling helps reduce the body’s response to stress and lower heart rate in tense situations; another study linked smiling to lower blood pressure, while yet another suggests that smiling leads to longevity.1
So it would be in your best interest to smile, don't you think?
I challenge you to try this: Upon awakening every single morning, smile. The very first thing every single day for 7 days. See if it improves your life, even just a little bit.
I do this every single day. I wake up and it almost seems like I have a big frown on my face. But I smile. And it does help.
As a habit coach, I teach others to do this, and it will transform your life in magic fashion. Why? Because it will help your body, it is a little FREE trick I learned that does exactly this.
Feeling sorry for yourself, and your present condition is not only a waste of energy but the worst habit you could possibly have. -Dale Carnegie
So I checked in on my “toxic positivity” fitness gal last week on Thanksgiving, to see how those toxic positivity thought habits were working for her. Let’s just say not well. Here's a link to her profile in case you were wondering.
She missed the holiday with her family because her tests did not come back in time for her to go see them. Mind you they are both healthy but they wanted to be safe.
The first test result came back as not admissible or something like that. Imagine her disappointment for a moment.
While I feel sorry for her, I see myself in her as well. Everyone is me pushed out ya know.
I see her as an advocate for victims. And when she does this, she loses her power.
You see, years ago, 2007 to be exact I learned I was not going to get my boys for Christmas because my ex had planned a cruise (on my...
"A habit cannot be tossed out the window, it must be coaxed down the stairs one step at a time." - Mark Twain
Did you know that around 40% of everything we do on a daily basis is habitual? I would venture to say it is probably a whole lot more than that!
This means that a big part of our lives is almost entirely on autopilot!
Think this through for a second and evaluate those habits of yours.
Do they empower you or disempower you?
Do they limit you or free you?
Do they help you or hinder you from reaching your goals?
How do you go about creating habits? Do you go with the wind and throw things out the window? And find yourself lost in the process?
Habits are our subconscious mind’s way of doing things on autopilot. Try something new and create a healthy habit in a simple way.
One can easily create a habit by taking your time and going down one step at a time.
Transform YOUR life in magic fashion.
Today's Ben Franklin Virtue building is probably one of the most difficult for us, but it is the most effective tool in building habits that stick.
Remember earlier this month when I shared my speech with Toastmasters on Information Addiction? And the question was "How do I deal with this?"
In each instance, I described someone who lacked discipline. The person checking their watch during the conversation, the email at their son's soccer game, the meeting with the tragic notification, and the person sharing gory details on Facebook ruining everyone's Chi. Here is a link to my speech in case you missed it!
Where is your discipline? This is the cornerstone to building habits that stick. And it doesn't have to be difficult.
Just try to be 1% better than yesterday and you will always be improving.
We all slide! But we always have tomorrow!
Think about self-discipline this week. Where can you be 1% better today than yesterday?
Picture this, you are at a party 3 months from now, maybe even just a week from now. EVERYONE wants to know what you have been doing. You look different, you act different, and everyone wants to know your secret.
Have you ever tried an exercise routine but it just did not stick? Have you ever tried to give up a bad habit not only to find yourself stuck back in the same drab routine?
Quit wasting money on personal trainers (yup I just said that), diets, food that you do not eat, coaching programs that do not give you the results you dreamed of or that they promised.
Quit making resolutions! Quit setting goals!
Why? Because they do not stick.
What sticks? HABITS!
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Here are the 4 reasons why habits do not stick.
As a Personal Trainer, I have seen it all when it comes to habits not sticking. Here are the 4 most popular reasons as to why they do not stick and what to do about it.
1. Lack of motivation
2. Lack of time
3. Lack of confidence
4. Lack of direction
At first, they are all obstacles, if you are not careful they quickly become excuses. And you know what they say about excuses. Excuses are like a$$holes, everyone has one!
In this video, I am going to discuss what the 4 reasons are and how to work with them.
Learn how to make your habits stick, follow along with us and go on an email journey all about Stop the Mind Screw and Your Fitness:
Sacrifice short term conveniences for long-term gains. Unknown
Most people, myself included, build habits backwards. They start with the goal (which is correct) then go all out trying to achieve the goal.
Take for example building abdominal muscles - they go all out doing crunches or abdominal exercises they found online. But give up all too soon, especially when they don't see results.
*Spoiler alert - you can do abdominal exercises all day long but if you do not do something about the fat on top of the muscle you will never see results.
Or take, for example, weight loss. They decide they want to quit eating junk food and throw it all out. But they start getting headaches and feel tired all day. This is a result of going through withdrawal from certain foods.
However, this is backwards. So let's re-frame it. Everything is mindset ya know!
Take it one day at a time, Take it slow and...
"Follow disciplines that serve your growth." Kathie Owen
The next time you feel stuck in a rut or un-motivated ask yourself, "What can I do right now that will serve my growth?"
Sit in silence for a moment, meditate on your growth, and what exactly you want.
Are you struggling to find exactly what you want? Or your definite chief aim? Well, this simple download can (and will) help with that.
When we picture our goals from the end in mind, like Neville Goddard and Napoleon Hill teach something magical happens. We start to form a discipline that serves our growth.
When we hit stumbling blocks, and we will, we see that they are serving our purpose and are there for a reason. To help us grow!!
Focus on the discipline it takes for you to grow. When building habits that stick it takes discipline.
Do you know who has true discipline? David Goggins.
He is an American ultramarathon runner, ultra-distance cyclist, triathlete, motivational speaker, and author. He is a retired...
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