What Conditions Do You Put on Love?

Today's video is about love. Think about who you love and if you love them conditionally or unconditionally.

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It's interesting to consider the conditions we put on those we love. Or those we think we love.

Romantic love as well. 

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From the book Laws of Success by Napoleon Hill unconditional love is the following: enthusiasm, controlled attention, going the extra mile, a pleasing personality, applied faith, maintaining sound physical health, universal law, self-discipline, budgeting time and money, personal initiative, learning from defeat.

And conditional love is the following: poverty, imaginary illness, lazy, greed, envy, vanity, drifting without aim or purpose, revenge, jealousy, dishonesty, arrogance, sadism, cynicism.  (all narcissistic tendencies)

Solutions are:

  • Awareness
  • Boundaries
  • Unconditionally love yourself first
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How to Tell if Your Thinking is Accurate


It's that time again, Benjamin Franklin Virtue Building Day.

Accurate thinking is the virtue of the week.

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We have all heard this quote by Einstein. But do we really apply it?

Look at my toxic positivity gal! She is right in her thinking that there are some things in this world that need to be fixed!! Yes absolutely.

But her way of going about things is not accurate thinking.

What do I mean by this? Well, she FORCES people to follow her opinions and beliefs, thinking it will change the world. And if you DO NOT AGREE WITH HER, she will bully the crap out of you. 

That includes huge businesses, fitness influencers who are really doing things wrong and fighting against white, skinny, etc (fill in the blank) privilege.

Toxic positivity gal calls everyone out thinking they will change. I have news for her, they will not. And...

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Find Faith Like This!

This week's virtue is Faith, and Trust The Process.

I remember back when I bought Body Designer from Ms. Sally Nelson. I entered her store one day to visit. It was dark and her little Yorkie was sitting in the chair just inside the door.

I slowly walked to the back room expecting her to be passed out or hurt from a traumatic robbery. 

Instead, I walked in to find her cooking on the stove, back to the door, and when I said hello she did not even startle. 

I asked her "Aren't you afraid?" She quickly placed her hand on her hip and said. "Now honey, don't you believe in Jesus Christ?"

She had a point. The woman was 90 years old and was wise in her ways. Where is your faith? Where are you trusting the process? 

This week venture out and give it some thought. Create healthy thought habits by trusting the process and putting your faith in what is right, true, and pure. 

Let me know how this works for you!

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Controlled Attention

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This week's Ben Franklin Virtue building is controlled attention. I have said it before that our attention spans are decreasing by leaps and bounds due to the information age we live in. It is so very important to control your attention span. But how does one do that?


First and foremost pay attention to how often you check your device, especially when you are bored. Try to focus on what is going on around you instead of grabbing your device first thing. See if you can control your attention span to notice 4 things you see, 3 things you feel, 2 things you hear, 1 thing you smell. This is also one of the best ways to reduce anxiety and calm yourself down in traumatic situations.

 Notice your attention span this week.

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Failure? Use it for Fuel!!

Failure is part of life. It is also a huge part of success. When you truly know this everything changes.
The gym at OCuSOFT flooded 3 times before we lifted the building off the ground. There were many failures along the way. MANY. Each time it flooded we learned something new. The final time it flooded we lifted the slab 3 feet off the ground. There were many failures involved in that process too.
We finally got back into the gym the first week of March 2020. Then COVID hit and the gym is closed indefinitely.
Yes, huge defeats along the way but there were also victories among those defeats.
I apply this process to so many things. Learn from your defeats. As Napoleon Hill says ( and one of my very favorite quotes)
"Every Adversity, Every Failure, Every Heartbreak, Carries With It The Seed Of An Equal Or Greater Benefit" - Napoleon Hill.
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The Answer to Procrastination

"You can have the best plans, ideas, and thoughts in your mind and nothing will happen until you take action." -Kathie Owen

Action kills procrastination. Think about it. Have you ever put something off and then once you took a small action it just felt better?

Take cleaning a drawer or a closet. Take one small step towards doing the project, most times it moves you enough that you quit putting it off.

Personal initiative helps to take action. What is that? It is simply holding yourself accountable and just doing it. Even if it is one small action towards doing the thing you dread.

In the book Eat That Frog the author tells us to do the hardest thing first in the morning. This puts you into action and makes the rest of the day go by smoothly! Try it! See how it works for you!


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