Don't Make Resolutions Do This Instead!

Picture this, you are at a party 3 months from now, maybe even just a week from now. people keep asking, "What you have been doing?" You look different, you act different, and they want to know your secret.

Have you ever tried an exercise routine but it just did not stick? Have you ever tried to give up a bad habit not only to find yourself stuck back in the same drab routine? 

Quit wasting money on personal trainers (yup I just said that ), diets, food that you do not eat, coaching programs that do not give you the results you dreamed of or that they promised.

Motivation is another lie. I always hear, "I'm just not motivated!" Motivation is something that happens over time. You don't just wake up one day and say, "I'm motivated." Heck even professional athletes lack motivation.

It is a matter of mindset!!! Mindset is everything!

Quit making resolutions! Stop the mind screw now!

Why? Because resolutions do not stick.

What sticks? HABITS! Create habits!

Habits are things...

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Kick Your Habit Building Skills into High Gear


What is the Challenge? It is the 30-day Anomalous Challenge. This challenge is incredible and guaranteed to start you on the path towards your best life now.

It is just human behavior to stay stuck in our limiting beliefs. That is why we never move forward or if we do we do not move to the next level. We tell ourselves, “Oh that’s why this doesn’t work for me.” “There I go again, screw up, I give up!” “Why bother with this, it takes too much work.” 

We even guarantee our failure with self-fulfilling prophecies like “I am lazy so why bother.” “I never stick with stuff.” “It just takes too much work to get there so I give up.”

The Anomalous Challenge helps you overcome self-fulfilling prophecies and limiting beliefs by pushing you (little by little) to new levels. Before you know it you are over the hump!

How to:

  • For 30 days perform some small task that is out of your comfort zone just a little...
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4 Reasons Why Your Habits Do Not Stick and What to Do About It


Here are the 4 reasons why habits do not stick. 

As a Personal Trainer, I have seen it all when it comes to habits not sticking. Here are the 4 most popular reasons as to why they do not stick and what to do about it.

They are:

1. Lack of motivation

2. Lack of time

3. Lack of confidence

4. Lack of direction

At first, they are all obstacles, if you are not careful they quickly become excuses. And you know what they say about excuses. Excuses are like a$$holes, everyone has one!

In this video, I am going to discuss what the 4 reasons are and how to work with them.

Two great books on habit building are: Atomic Habits and The Slight Edge


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Want More Creativity? Try This!

 In the book The Artist Way, Julia Cameron talks about Artist Dates and teaches us that we ought to do these once a week.

What is an Artist Date? It is something that inspires creativity. It is something you do that is not your usual routine. It doesn’t have to be very long or take you much time.

Although the longer the better. It can be something you enjoyed as a child, something you want to see, something you have been wanting to do.

It is the random, messy, colorful, musical, sensual, experimental, fully engaged, and artful side of life.

We incorporate Artist Dates in Stop the mind screw. We also incorporate Artist Dates in Perfectly Fit with Kathie.

How? Well we call them Fitness Dates. Find what you love by trying new things in fitness. It doesn't have to be something you will do all the time. Just try it.

For example, I found I loved water aerboics at age 30 when I went to the YMCA to get my exercise in when my boys we todlers. I loved it because I found I didn't...

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Why I Hate the Term Toxic Positivity

I hate the term #toxicpositivity. And I don’t use the word 'hate' unless it is absolutely necessary.

Why? Because positivity saved my life. There is nothing toxic about it. That my friends is an illusion!!!

As a survivor of Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder I could have easily blamed positivity for all my problems. And told people, “You don’t know what I went through!!” or “Please, it was really bad.”

No, I learned from many years of therapy, awareness, and contemplation that does absolutely no good. 

All that does is keep you in victim mode. And after being in victim mode for so long you come out and victimize everyone and everything - including positivity. #dumb

Instead, enter victor mode. Become aware that these victim/victimizer thoughts are all illusions. 

Serve the principles of truth, integrity, courage and above all LOVE!! 

Those principles my friend ARE POSITIVITY.

Those principles saved my life!! And could save yours....

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My House was Stolen From Me!

A home is supposed to be your safe haven. A place you live, where memories are made, and where dreams are born.

But in 2018 my whole world crumbled right before my very eyes.

I should have listened to my intuition and NOT blood-sucking attorneys.

I mean even the title that was stripped from me was done so by an attorney, not to mention a Justice of the Peace in Fort Bend County, Texas.

A piece of paper! That is how my house was stolen from me.

More importantly, I should have known better about all of this because Kenny played with the deeds on our property in 2000 to keep a section in his name. You know he was and is always manipulating something under the table.

No wonder I have Complex PTSD.

But no, I lay blind to all that happened, due to my overwhelm and mind screw of stress in my life!!

Yes, my house was stolen from me. I know it sounds crazy but it was. I trusted a Judge and a woman who came across as a loving, kind Christian. Let's just say her company called JSUS was not so...

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Do You Have a Great Ripple Effect in Life?

 Be brilliant and reach for the stars. This is the best way to serve your goals and help fellow humans. -Unknown

Do you know when you throw a rock into the water, it has this ripple effect? Like this?

That is what happens when you do any sort of action. Good or bad. You cause this ripple effect and it goes on and on. It also comes back to you, but we'll leave that for another blog post!

This quote was in my morning oracle cards the other day. To me, it is all about that ripple effect and reaching high for my goals.

How do I do this? Well, I stick to my habits #1. By creating what Jeff Olson, author of the Slight Edge calls happy habits in mind, body, and spirit you easily create an awesome ripple effect.

It has so much to do with your thought habits, are you thinking thoughts of joy, love, peace, kindness, ease, flow, etc.


It can also work the other way around. This means that you can have a negative ripple effect especially when you think of thoughts of resentment,...

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Laws of Non-Attachment

Allow others to be who they are. Allow yourself to be who you are. Don't force situations. Solutions will emerge. Uncertainty is reality. Embrace it.

Laws of non-attachment. They keep us safe. You do not see this often. Everyone is trying to force their opinions and situations. Force is everywhere. 

Embrace uncertainty. It is a part of life. Learn to let go. Go with the flow.

Allow others to be as they are. Do not force them to change. 

Allow situations to just be.

Solutions emerge as you let go. Infinite solutions. Oh, it helps to let go.

Make it a habit to let go of expectations, opinions, and situations. Let things be as they are. You will find a new level of awareness when you do this!

You do not know the real reason why things are the way they are. Embrace the uncomfortableness and let it be. You will find so much more when you do!


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Synchronicities Are Everywhere, Don't Miss Them!

“It is not often that a man can make opportunities for himself. But he can put himself in such shape that when or if the opportunities come he is ready.” Theodore Roosevelt

This picture depicts perfectly what it takes to seize an opportunity.

Do you pay attention to synchronicities when they arise? Sometimes people do not notice this when the time is right because they are so dang busy forcing things.

Sit back, rely on your power, it will come through at the right time and in the right place. 


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Unconditional Love and Conditional Love

Surround yourself with those who bring out the best in you, not the stress in you. -Unknown

Have you had to let go of people who stress you out?

It hurts at first, but realize this fact. It isn’t easy to let go of those you love, but sometimes it is for the best.

Unconditional love is the answer to this. When someone is not good for you it is based on conditional love. 

Unconditional love knows no "conditions" so, therefore, it is freeing!!

This is why I love my dogs so much. They teach me, unconditional love. I know the feeling. And when it turns to conditional love, it is very different.

When you hurt due to missing them (the narcissist) remember the abuse, the rudeness, the hateful behavior, and the disrespect that they so often did. It makes the blow easier. 

And remember the stress is now gone that you let them go. Wishing you the best! 


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