Mental Diets are Crucial for Success

If we think in excess of 90,000 thoughts a day, consider the quality of those thoughts.

Do you ever think of that?

Now that's food for thought - pun intended!

In today's video, I discuss some pitfalls of not following a mental diet and solutions to those pitfalls.

You can watch the video right here!!

Here are the 3 pitfalls I discuss:

  1.  Recognize how you talk to yourself? What are you thinking?
  2. Identify your thought habits.
  3. No thought control? I have your solutions


  1. Picture a positive slide
  2. Monitor your self-talk
  3. Do NOT shame yourself. Do NOT dwell on negative thoughts.
  4. Eventually, it will become a lifestyle.

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Want to stop the mind screw?  Below is a road map of this program and a free guide on a mental diet. Learn all about it right here!! 

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Why Infatuation Fails!

 In today's video we discuss this graph in detail. This was taught to me by the wonderful, great, Shary Davis (my therapist).

Notice how infatuation goes up immediately. Our brains cannot process data properly while in this mode.

 But unconditional love, (Click Here for that video) takes its time. Shary said it takes approximately 18 months for true love to catch up to infatuation.

There are 3 common pitfalls:

  1. Limiting beliefs
  2. Red flags are missed
  3. Attention is focused only on the good in the other person

Solutions to the pitfalls:

  1. Re-write limiting beliefs with the Pruning Shears of Revision. (Link to FREE pdf) Build that muscle
  2. Go on a mental diet, make it a lifestyle
  3. Build confidence in yourself
  4. Stop drifting discussed in the book Outwitting the Devil (link to book on Amazon)
  5. Raise your level of consciousness

Bonus material:

Dating books for women I highly recommend

The Rules (link to the book on Amazon) - now this book has some pretty strict rules,...

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The Time I Survived the Texas Freeze

stop the mind screw Feb 24, 2021

In today's video, I discuss the Texas freeze of 2021. I survived it!!

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I went without power or cell service for 2 full days. My house got down to 42 degrees Farenheight. And it was not that bad! I think that has so much to do with my attitude and the skills I learned along the way as a survivor of Complex PTSD.

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I discuss the 4 things I learned:

  1.  Most go through the stages of grief when encountering a traumatic situation. When this happens we cannot look at anything as positive until we get to acceptance. This is why people look at positivity as toxic (I get it but I don't). The stages of grief are Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, and Acceptance.
  2. When one goes through a traumatic event they usually experience Post Traumatic Stress, something I know about!
  3. We are just guests on this planet. We are not entitled to one single thing. Let go of...
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What Conditions Do You Put on Love?

Today's video is about love. Think about who you love and if you love them conditionally or unconditionally.

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It's interesting to consider the conditions we put on those we love. Or those we think we love.

Romantic love as well. 

We discuss the virtues in this video. Subscribe to your 13-week email with a different virtue every week. Click Here!

From the book Laws of Success by Napoleon Hill unconditional love is the following: enthusiasm, controlled attention, going the extra mile, a pleasing personality, applied faith, maintaining sound physical health, universal law, self-discipline, budgeting time and money, personal initiative, learning from defeat.

And conditional love is the following: poverty, imaginary illness, lazy, greed, envy, vanity, drifting without aim or purpose, revenge, jealousy, dishonesty, arrogance, sadism, cynicism.  (all narcissistic tendencies)

Solutions are:

  • Awareness
  • Boundaries
  • Unconditionally love yourself first
  • ...
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No Equipment Workout

fitness ptsd Feb 12, 2021

The simplest way to work out at home is to use your own body, commonly known as isometric exercises.

There are a variety of effective bodyweight exercises that can help you build strength, endurance and burn calories.

And by circuit training (going from one exercise to the next, without little or no rest), you keep your heart rate up, burn more calories and get the most out of your exercise time.

How to:

  • Choose your workout — Cardio, strength training, or a mixture of both
  • Choose 10 different exercises — For cardio, focus on exercises with different levels of intensity. For example, you might alternate a high-intensity exercise (such as jumping jacks or burpees) with an easier move (such as marching in place). For strength training, choose pushes, pulls, front-of-leg, back-of-leg, and core movements, such as squats, lunges, pushups, and dips. 
  • Warm Up all the muscles by doing some dynamic moves
  • Choose the length of each exercise — Beginners might start with...
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What is a Trigger in PTS

stop the mind screw Feb 11, 2021

Have you ever seen police lights in your rearview mirror and get a sudden wave of fear? Your heart rate starts pulsing and you begin to think of every little thing you just did to see if it is you who is getting pulled over?

That my friend is a trigger. And when you have PTSD it can take something as simple as spending time with a 3-year-old child when all of a sudden you have flashbacks to a time and place where you are in trauma.

Triggers are something every person has whether they have PTSD or not. As a survivor of Complex PTSD, I can tell you those triggers come out of nowhere even when you are healthy and far removed from the narc.

Today I am going to help you by identifying ways to deal with those triggers to minimize the effect.

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Triggers can be both internal and external.

Examples of internal triggers are:

  • Anger
  • Anxiety
  • Feeling abandoned
  • Feeling lonely
  • Feeling out of control
  • Frustration
  • Memories
  • Muscle tension
  • Racing heart rate


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4 Ways To Build an Exercise Routine That Works for You!

fitness Feb 08, 2021

This week’s fitness tip:

  •  Exercise and Your Immune System
  • Tips on how to make a plan that motivates you.

Exercise can help ease depression, stress, and anxiety, and aid in the management of chronic conditions, such as high blood pressure and diabetes. By finding new ways to get moving and stay motivated, you can take charge of your mood and well-being and regain a sense of control.

While being fit won’t prevent you from catching illnesses, it does have many other protective effects. Physical activity releases endorphins, chemicals in your brain that revitalize your mind and body, and it can help to improve all aspects of your health. In addition to boosting your mood and improving sleep, exercise can also strengthen your immune system, something that is particularly important.

But don’t overdo it. While moderate physical activity supports immune function, too much intense activity—especially if you are not used to it—may have the opposite effect...

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5 Solutions to Dealing with Chaos!

stop the mind screw Feb 03, 2021

Have you ever had a crazy time, day, month, or even year? 

Well, in today's video I discuss this. Click Here to watch it now.


While on a coaching call with Matthew David Hurtado, author of the great book Ask Until it is Given, he said, "Chaos Proceeds the Breakthrough"

I have come to learn this is correct.

Learn the top mistakes: 

  • Panic makes it worse
  • Complaining only brings you more
  • Giving up during the chaos


  • Mind control
  • Mental diet
  • Subconscious reprogramming
  • Trust the process
  • Have faith

Remember when going through the stages of grief there is no way you will be able to comprehend the solutions. 

The 5 stages of grief are:

  1. Denial
  2. Anger
  3. Bargaining
  4. Depression
  5.  Acceptance

Only in acceptance can one comprehend the solutions.

How does one get to acceptance? Through self-care, kindness to self, and time. Do not suppress these emotions, feel them, then move on.

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4 Benefits of HIIT That Will Help Everyone!

fitness menopause Feb 01, 2021
So let's talk about HIITs or HIgh-Intensity Interval Training. Every single one of us can benefit from HIIT's.
 HIIT stands for High-Intensity Interval Training. You can do HIITs anytime, any place.
For example, while walking in your neighborhood warm-up for a few minutes then go into a brisk walk for a few houses or blocks, then slow down and rest walk. Continue this type of pace throughout your walk. If you need to jog for a bit to make your interval intense enough I recommend doing that.
Some benefits of HIIT programs are:
1. You build stamina and improve your metabolism. Because you speed up and slow down throughout your workout you are training your body to build stamina. Over the matter of a few weeks of HIIT you will find improved stamina!
2. Improves heart function. Because you take your heart rate up and bring it back down you work your heart and make it work more effectively.
3. Aid in weight loss in as little as...
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