How to Stop Making Excuses

 Stop mind screwing yourself out of health and wellness. Here's how to stop making excuses and start to take action!

  • Did you give in to those extra donuts in the breakroom this morning?
  • Or are you procrastinating tasks for that big project?
  • What about hitting the gym this morning? Or even every morning for the last year?

We all make excuses from time to time. This is a simple habit we use to rationalize why we didn't follow through on a specific commitment.

If you've developed this bad habit of making excuses all the time, it might be time to start curbing that bad habit.

I was reading toxic positivity girl's stories a few weeks ago and of course, she was supporting the "excuse mentality" in a weird way. Typical, it was in true victim-mindset mentality.

She spoke of reasons why some may not be able to exercise. Honestly, it rubbed me the wrong way. So I decided to write this post.

Here are some REASONS why we make excuses and a 13-step process we can use to stop making excuses in our lives.

Reason #1 You are experiencing fear.

"Everything you've ever wanted is on the other side of fear." -George Addair

People are often afraid of things because they do not understand them or they are lacking all the information they need. 

The good news is that someone somewhere has been through the challenge you are facing. All you have to do is find out how they overcame it and then you can alleviate your anxieties or fears.

A great book on this is The Obstacle is the Way: The Timeless Art of Turning Trials into Triumph by Ryan Holiday 

#2 You Don't Want to Fail

"Every adversity, every failure, every heartbreak carries with it the seed of equal or greater benefit." Napoleon Hill

So many do not realize that failure is part of life. It means you are living. Failure happens. 

When you realize that failure holds the seed of equal or greater benefit you know you are onto something.

Notice how he said "SEED" not the "present"🎁 . Be patient the benefit will come in time!

#3 You don't know what to expect.

Life is full of twists and turns. We all don't know what is next. I talk about expectations often. Let go of expectations and open up to new and bright opportunities.

#4. You don't have a specific goal

When you say, "I want to lose weight." That goal holds zero value. Why? Because it is not specific enough.

Instead, make that goal more specific. By stating WHAT and HOW you want to attain that goal.

I want to lose 10 pounds and will do that by keeping an eye on my sugar intake and hitting the pool 4 times a week.

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#5 You compare yourself to others

People often fear being compared to others who they perceive to be more talented or better than themselves. Oftentimes, we measure ourselves up to see if we perform better or worse than others.

It is important to not make excuses so you won't be compared to other people because then you aren't even giving yourself a chance to succeed. Who knows, compared with someone else, you may be the best.

#6 You're not motivated

Oh, this one is big. I hear this all the time. And I write about motivation often.

Of course, you don't want to make that healthy dinner. Or you don't want to try that new exercise routine. It is uncomfortable. (Check the reasons above).

But without motivation, you can come up with any excuse in the dictionary to stay complacent. 😯

#7 You think you lack the resource.

This one was prominent in toxic positivity girl's post. She spoke about some being unable to afford the gym membership or not having access to quality equipment.

BUT I have news for her. Back in the old days, we got fit without any equipment or fancy gyms.

In the end it is about your choices. The way you choose to spend your time and money is how you define your priorities.


Why It's Important to Stop Making Excuses

So, why are all of these things bad? Aside from the fact that they are probably not true statements when you say them or when you think them out loud, they are causing you to limit yourself - aka victim mentality.

These reasons for making excuses keep you going down the same old path, preventing you from growing or branching out. Here are some specific reasons why it is important to stop making excuses.

  • Excuses lead to failure in reaching your full potential
  • Excuses will make you regret "the road not taken"
  • Excuses prevent growth
  • Excuses will teach your children the same bad habit

13 Steps To Stop Making Excuses

#1. Stop comparing yourself to others

Instead of focusing on what you don’t have, focus on your strengths and adopt a mindset of gratitude. Being grateful for the opportunities that are available to you to help you grow will start to improve the way you feel about yourself. If you get stuck on how to be more thankful for what you have.

#2. Stop fearing the unknown

Get used to stepping into the unknown by doing it more often. Break up your daily routine by taking a different route to work or going to a new exercise class. Preventing yourself from falling into a strict routine in the first place or disconnecting from your internal auto-pilot will help you welcome the unknown rather than fear it.

#3. Stop blaming others

Take ownership of your life and recognize when you’re blaming others. Exercise the authority you have over your life by taking charge of anything that is within your control.

#4. Take responsibility for ALL your actions

We can’t change some of life’s circumstances or how other people behave towards us, but we can control our responses to these things to change an outcome. Taking responsibility also requires changing your mindset. This may sound cheesy, but reciting to yourself, “If it is to be, it is up to me” is simple to remember and will remind you that you’re responsible for doing anything that you’re able to do if there is a need.

#5. Take action every day

Recognize that the first step will be the hardest. You’re the only person who can make it happen, though. Act on it. So challenge yourself to do at least one thing every day for each of your goals.

#6. Set small, attainable goals

Create a milestone map. Your milestones are still significant steps, but they help shift your mindset to focus on the smaller things you need to do that will accumulate toward completing your long-term goal. Doing this will help you start to recognize the necessary steps toward achieving your goal.

#7. Learn from your mistakes

Determine what specific action led to the mistake. Did you respond too quickly during that argument with your loved one instead of gathering your thoughts? If this is the case perhaps you can study responses during an argument and how to better respond next time.

#8. Don't focus on your weaknesses

Perform a personal SWOT analysis. This means writing down your strengths, weaknesses, opportunities, and threats that are relevant to achieving your goal. This will help you recognize your weaknesses but allow you to take your focus off of them as you are also looking at the factors that you have in your favor.

#9. Change your attitude

Be proactive without expecting to see a result. While the steps you take are based upon the results you'd like to see, don’t go into it with high and immediate expectations. This will only be setting yourself up for disappointment. Do your best, but don’t obsess over the ultimate outcome.

#10. Believe in yourself

Take a few minutes to list the things that you are good at doing and the successes you have had in the past. Then, recognize that everything you listed is evidence that you can, in fact, succeed. Sometimes we forget how successful we have been in the past. Next time you think that you can’t do something, alter your focus to the things you have already accomplished and about how you can make your current goal into a reality.

#11. Visualize your success

Get comfortable, close your eyes, and imagine what you would see if your dream was realized. Practice doing this any time you feel a dip in motivation.

#12. Remember it's okay to not be perfect

Next time you make a mistake, find the lesson in it and move on. Analyze your decisions, correct your behavior, and get back on the right path.

#13. Know you can change your "excuses habit"

Say yes. The next time any sort of opportunity presents itself to you that is relevant to helping you meet your goal, agree to it without hesitation.


In closing, it is important to note that responsibility is a big step towards overcoming the excuses.

Honestly, sometimes people get so used to making excuses that doing so is their default answer to everything. They hardly consider actually saying “yes” or taking on responsibility.

They are just wired to come up with one of the excuses that they hold handy. It is important to make the best of every situation instead and never make an excuse that is not valid.